The Journey of Motherhood | Finding Confidence

As mothers, especially new mothers, there is a fear that you don't know what you're doing at times. That you're making mistakes, you're missing the mark, you're forgetting, you're not doing enough, you're failing.

I am here to tell you, you are not.

In the early weeks of postpartum, it is easy to get swallowed by this fear. Your hormones are changing so much, and there is a new person who depends on you every moment of every day. Trying to adjust into your new life as a mother and finding ways to bring your new baby into your routine can be so overwhelming.

For me, I went back to work 2 weeks postpartum. Granted, I worked from home, so I was blessed to be able to work and care for my baby, but it was never easy. So many days, I cried. I called my working husband begging him to come home, knowing he couldn't. I called my mom begging her to come back to town and help me, knowing she couldn't. I spent so much time holding my precious boy and crying because I had no idea what to do. Balancing work and caring for him was the hardest season of my life. He would cry so often while I had to focus because I couldn't hold him always when he needed me. We were alone, I was overwhelmed, I needed help and support that I did not have. Difficult decisions were made in the following weeks, but I knew that it was the right choice for me as a mother and for my son.

As we head into his 7 month of life, I have started to shift my focus as much as possible. I want to embrace motherhood in every way that I can. I know this season of him being young, of me being a young mother, of us growing and learning together is so very short. I don't want to get lost in my fear that I cannot do this or that I am failing because I know that fear will steal my motherhood if I let it.

The mindset I have begun to shift into is this: I trusted my body during pregnancy. I trusted that it was designed to carry my child and that it knew what to do through every stage of pregnancy. I trusted my body in labor. I trusted that it could bring my baby into this world and that it was created perfectly to give life to my son. So why, in motherhood, would I doubt myself? My body carried my baby, gave birth to him, and now, it is ready and able to care for him.

We create affirmations to remind ourselves in pregnancy and through labor that we are able to do this. It is time to create affirmations in postpartum that remind us that We are designed to be mothers. The bond we have built with our baby is stronger than our fear. Our instincts, our intuition, our nature will not allow us to fail as mothers.

I want my focus in motherhood to be this: Feeling confident and settled in the mindset that I am his mother for a reason. My body and spirit are connected to him and will not fail me. My intuition will guide me in the choices I need to make for his well-being and his growth. You are strong, momma. Your body is built to carry, birth, and care for your baby. You know your baby better than any google article or any other person will ever know them. Do not give into the fear that you are failing or that you are not enough. Ground yourself, meditate in, and rest in the knowledge that you are a Mother, which is a precious gift, indeed.